This first week of Summer has been decadent. We've spent most of it at the beach or the pool, eating lots of popsicles, and riding scooters and bikes around the neighborhood. My kids are in their swimsuits from the time they take off their pajamas until it's time to put pajamas back on.
And I keep wanting to curl up in the fetal position and have a good cry.
I am realizing how little time I have left of this bliss. I think I was 11 or 12 when I started to feel self-conscious running around in my swimsuit like that. I think I was 12 or 13 when I started wanting to go to the pool with my friends instead of with my mom.
Yesterday I was sitting at the pool watching the girls dive and play, then devour huge ice cream sandwiches while warming up on the cement, completely unfettered by worries about whether their thighs are thin enough, bellies flat enough, boobs big or small enough. I just ached for time to stand still. Ten or eleven years. That's about all we get as females before we start worrying about whether the body that has been so fantastically functional for us up until then, is "good enough" ....good enough for what? Good enough for other people? Ugh.
For the last ten years I've watched my girls live so confidently in their skin, completely unaware of the abs they've acquired from lowering their bodies safely from tree limbs and monkey bars, the ripped forearms and trapezius muscles from scaling rock walls, the toned leg muscles from hours riding scooters and bicycles. That amazing confidence comes from the knowledge that their bodies will do whatever they want them to do. It kills me that in a couple of years my girls may question their bodies for the first time, not because their bodies can't achieve something, but because their bodies might not look the way they think they should.
The other day Amelia was talking about America's Got Talent, and she said, "I just don't know what I would do if I was on that show. I'm so good at so many things. It would be really hard to decide on just one of my talents to show everyone."
Why can't we have the body image of a nine year old and the self-confidence of a seven year old forever? If I could give them any gift it would be that they will always play that hard, eat that joyfully, and love themselves every bit as much as they do now.
My goal this Summer is to achieve the same. I'm learning from the best.